Friday, January 30, 2009
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Around 5:23 I got the call from the branches of the phone tree at work saying that school was cancelled. Well this quick phone call must have triggered something in Erik because he was yammering on about a burger restaurant.
"Did she get your order?"
"Order, no that was S, there is no school today."
"Yeah, but did you place your order? We are in a burger joint, right?"
"NO! We are in our bedroom, it's 5:3o AM. No burgers."
"Yeah, we have to order the burgers. I know there are burgers here."
This non-conversation went on for about 10 minutes and I was fuming by the end. If I didn't have to get up for work, I wanted to sleep in as long as I could. I think this edition of chef mumbles was triggered by my husband's general love of burgers and our recent trip to 5 Guys in Hoboken. It's our new favorite burger place. And it's not even in our bedroom-they have locations all over.
Sunday, January 25, 2009
Burger Island 2
Cake Mania 3
Hot Dish 2
Go Go Gourmet
The games have 60 minute free downloads, and paid versions as well. They are all pretty easy with levels that get faster and more intricate. Let me know if you play any!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
"...I don't even know what I cooking this week."
Well, you better figure it out soon because restaurant week is now I kid, Perry St has a fatastic reataurant week deal, then again it always has a $24 3-course lunch and $35 3- course dinner.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Search/Date/Marry: A girl's guide to finding, hooking, and making true love last with a chef.
Here's a list of my favorite keywords that lead to DesperateChefsWives.com
1. most chefs burnout
2. married chef problems/lonely chefs wives/married chef issues/relationship advice for working chefs
3. single chefs
4. marrying a chef
5. perry st chef housewife-I'm not a housewife!
6. gay chefs
7. wives of chefs support group
8. my husband is a chef /alone
9. chefs in a recession
10. is mike colameco married/is david chang married?/is aaron sanchez married?/johnny iuzzini married?/is whylie dufresne married?
11. chefs and family time
12. how to take care of chef's hands
13. my husband is a chef and he's always gone
14. korean desperate for a chef
15. My favorite: its hard dating a chef.
Friday, January 16, 2009
Your wife of five months works two 12-hour days a week and you "can't deal with
it." Oh, boy, you're a gem. Here's a thought. How about being supportive. How
about not looking for things to pick on like her one old credit card. How about
saying, this is my wife's dream and I'm going to help make it happen for her.Man
up guy and start being a husband.
I set up this blog as a place for women-and men-to visit when they need advice as well as the validation that being married to a ghost isn't all that crazy. I've heard testimonials from women who have entered the site then come to a mini epiphany, "My chef isn't the only one who smells up the hamper like fresh grouper and onions?" It was a harmonious place hear with stories of struggles and sacrifice, accomplishments and awards. But then came THE MAN. Mr. Chefhusband came on the scene with the same complaints and fears as any of us. But some of you brutalized and crucified him with sarcastic and nasty comments. Two separate comments declared that he must "be a man" or "man up". WHAAAT? I know you didn't just say that in 2009, on MLK weekend, a few days before we elect our first black president! Maybe I'm getting carried away, probably not though.
So, because Mr. Chefhusband is a male he should deal with the miserable marriage that's clearly not working for him? And because the majority of us are women we can harp on and on, complaining to each other, setting up blogs and forums dedicated to supporting each other? Why isn't he allowed the same right?
A man, a woman, gay, straight? I didn't set this blog up as a place for criticism against our fellow chefswives OR chefshusbands. If you are lonely at home, feeling neglected, and questioning your marriage to a chef-then this is the place for you. However, if you are only interested in harming others who are married to chefs, then please-leave. I understand the risks of saying something like this on a blog that hardly generates enough traffic as it is. I'd rather have a supportive, positive blog with 2 viewers than one with destructive comments generating million visitors a day.
Plus, you never know who might run a story on this homegrown blog.
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
I have to confess that I definitely add to the stress of Erik's job. I'm much better than I used to be. I cannot even believe I used to get on his back about promotions, raises, days off and fair pay. HA. I've since learned to keep my mouth shut. I know he and I want the same things so I've had to relax and let him so things on his own time. But he's still worrying about getting ordering done, revising dishes, training cooks, hiring staff, lowering food costs, and a heap of other things I don't care to think about.
How stressed are your chefs? Do they come home screaming? Moaning? Aching? Wheezing? Crying? Do your chefs induce stress in you just from their stories of work? Mine does! Erik comes home and does a pretty good job of leaving his work in the kitchen, aside from sharing a juicy story or two. It may be wrong to gossip, but it sure does help to keep things light.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
It seems that you want to fix it, but you feel hopeless. That's not a good position to be in. And please understand that all the patrons of this website are looking out for your best interest, or least Id like to think so. Though the comments may come off as harsh, believe me, these people have been in very similar situations and they want to see you have the same happiness as them. What a gift they are giving you!
It's said that love conquers all. Does it? Will love conquer your struggling marriage? You and your wife will decide that. It's not easy being married to a chef. Ever! But it's your job, and hers, to work and work and work every day at your marriage until DEATH DO YOU PART or you are miserable. I don't hope you stay together. My hope for you is this: I hope you both are happy. Only your marriage will decide how to make that happen.
Best of luck my friend,
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
hi i am not a chef wife but a chef husband. i make all the money, pay all the bills, and take care of everything at home. she makes next to nothing, is never home, and barely makes the payments on her old credit debt and student loans.she works from 10am - at least 10pm if not longer on weekend nights, has sunday and monday off.we have been married for 5 months and i cant deal with this lifestyle anymore.anyone else have a similar situation? i am struggling to keep this relationship going. we have issues now but no time to work through them and i am convinced that the lack of time we have together IS our issue.HELP PLEASE!
Now I know if we get all of our brilliant minds together, we can help this guy out. Everyone deserves some happiness.
Monday, January 5, 2009
Oh no. Here we go again.
Picture me acting my disbeleife out Elaine from Seinfeld style while shoving Erik and saying, "Get OUT".
DCW_NYC (back home!)
Friday, January 2, 2009
The question is: Is this woman insane or skilled at teaching cats useless tricks? And why won't she share her secret? My theory is that there is a rubber band attached to the fork and the cat's paw. Even at that, the cat still actually eats with it instead of doing that backwards walking cat thing they do when they want to get something (like doll's clothes) off them.
DCW_Still in Columbus, Ohio
Thursday, January 1, 2009
1. Fight with the chef less. Which we have been doing for a while but I can't stop working on that now.
2. Put myself first more often-or even just once!
3. Worry less about stuff. Things are what they are.
I'm sure you've all got some resolutions of your own, some the same, some different, but I would think #1 up there is going to be a popular one.