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Tuesday, August 25, 2009


I've waited 7 years for Erik to have a normal weekend. Saturday and Sunday? I still can't believe it. We had our first full weekend a couple days ago. As much as I've wanted this, it will take a slight adjustment. I'm used to working on school stuff on Saturdays. I spend the better half of the morning grading papers and planning for the week ahead. That won't/can't change, I need that extra day to get those things done. But what will change is Saturday morning cleaning and laundry. I have a partner! I've cut my cleaning time in half by doing it with Erik. We swept, mopped, dusted, cleaned the litter, bathroom, and kitchen in less than and hour! One good thing about a little apartment, little cleaning.

I can't wait to go to weddings-unheard of before now. And Erik will be available for school events I'm hosting-my jobmates only know Erik from stories. I considered a moving our normal standing Sunday dinner date to Saturday, but I'm so used to Sundays that I'd like to keep it that way. Of course all these Saturday fantasies can only come true if my chef isn't traveling at the time.

Food is Love,


Rebecca said...

That's so wonderful for both of you! Enough of the endless "X would love to come but... he's working"! Enjoy this Saturday-Sunday arrangement. Every moment with our busy guys is pretty special. Yay!

Heather said...

Enjoy, but don't beat yourself up if eventually you miss alone time. I love when Chef Daddy is home, most of the time. It is tricky sometimes,though. I am used to being so independant that sometimes I think I hurt his feelings when he is home. We have lived this lifestyle together for 13 years. He is going on 20 years in the industry. Sometimes it is hard to just spend time together, without food, caterings, and menu costing.

I'm not trying to rain on your parade. Enjoy each other's company, but allow yourselves to be human, too. Days off require as much adjustment as the travelling.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this blog. I am so glad I found it. I started dating a chef-to-be early this year (he is at the CIA currently) and it didn't dawn on me till this week that his crazy schedule is for the long term. Being very independent, it has been easy at the beginning. But as I fall in love with him, I am realizing this will turn into a lot of hardship in long run. I cried the entire evening last night.

Kay, New York

Unknown said...

Unrelated, but Frank Bruni mentions Perry Street on his Times blog. Look under "Can you point me to some great-looking restaurants?"

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Anonymous said...

can we have a blog post about chefs and cheating? i suspect my chef is cheating on me, online of all places, because he doesn't keep normal hours. whatcha think girls?

Anonymous said...

I think cheating and drugs r my two biggest fears when it comes to my chef...i