tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post8080687043841446332..comments2024-02-18T07:08:41.655-05:00Comments on Desperate Chefs' Wives: LonelyHilary Batteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17379733128452993947noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-85066114595567868222008-08-19T13:16:00.000-05:002008-08-19T13:16:00.000-05:00Thanks for all the well wishes on our new baby to ...Thanks for all the well wishes on our new baby to be!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-11129076974132310642008-08-14T20:38:00.001-05:002008-08-14T20:38:00.001-05:00Alone, yes all the time. I can totally relate. I'v...Alone, yes all the time. I can totally relate. I've been together with my chef for a year and a half. The lonliness is beginning to wear on me. Not to mention the fact that he is tired all the time. When I try to talk to him, well he just doesn't seem to get what it's like for me, for all of us to be without our partners. It usualy turns into a conversation about how hard he works (Ya I already know I've heard it before). What's a girl to do? Get out before it's too late or hold onto a good man who's gone all the time?<BR/>M.I.O<BR/>Portland, ORAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-64473649762461411822008-08-14T20:38:00.000-05:002008-08-14T20:38:00.000-05:00Alone, yes all the time. I can totally relate. I'v...Alone, yes all the time. I can totally relate. I've been together with my chef for a year and a half. The lonliness is beginning to wear on me. Not to mention the fact that he is tired all the time. When I try to talk to him, well he just doesn't seem to get what it's like for me, for all of us to be without our partners. It usualy turns into a conversation about how hard he works (Ya I already know I've heard it before). What's a girl to do? Get out before it's too late or hold onto a good man who's gone all the time?<BR/>M.I.O<BR/>Portland, ORAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-45885741492044030322008-08-05T15:18:00.000-05:002008-08-05T15:18:00.000-05:00Goo I totally sympathize. My hubby's restaurant j...Goo I totally sympathize. My hubby's restaurant just recently took off and he's home later and less frequently. Two weeks ago, I hadn't seen him in days, my grandparents were in the hospital (both of them), then the toilet broke and our entire place flooded, meanwhile I had finally made myself get out of the house and wasn't there to shut off the water. Needless to say, I had a mini-breakdown when he left me on the sofabed to go to work the next day with the bedroom a total swamp. Sure, there are family and friends to comfort you, but it's just not the same.<BR/><BR/>Me = you except with the Fab Five on Lifetime. A grocery store trip with hubby is like a special date never mind him actually cooking for me! When he does, I am a total braggart but feel silly at the same time. Should I really be this jazzed that my hubby cooked for me? Is it really that exciting?? Isn't that kind of sad that it IS?Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698239115218765449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-84562412594867580272008-08-03T10:30:00.000-05:002008-08-03T10:30:00.000-05:00Until we had a baby, I actually felt like I had th...Until we had a baby, I actually felt like I had the best of both worlds - I had a lot of independence to do what I wanted with my friends, spend a lot of time on my job (i'm a teacher too and they would have to kick me out of the building some nights!) but I also knew I had a loving, caring partner that I got to spend time with (occasionally). And I'm a homebody by nature, so I don't mind hanging out at home and reading/TV. <BR/><BR/>But having a baby changed that - we also moved to another neighborhood closer to work and not near so many of my friends/places. Last fall and winter were REALLY hard and isolating, and then I went back to work in the spring and I felt like a single mother. Summer is good to be home with my sweet little baby and we go to the restaurant for lunch a few times a week, so we can see my baby daddy during daylight hours.<BR/> <BR/>And I don't know why everyone is talking about how they have food - my chef never/rarely feeds me on a regular basis, once or twice a week TOPS, and now I find it almost impossible to get to the grocery store. What a pain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-7799400002301074942008-07-31T20:13:00.000-05:002008-07-31T20:13:00.000-05:00I'm an only child so I think that's come in handy ...I'm an only child so I think that's come in handy when dealing with the many nights alone. I've gotten so used to it that the nights the chef is home, I feel a bit out of sorts!<BR/><BR/>And to our chefwife who is having a baby: you can do it! And the chef is good for a late night feeding if/when you use bottles! We are all here to support you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-22583452090835389682008-07-31T17:59:00.000-05:002008-07-31T17:59:00.000-05:00I obsess over my nails too! When I give myself a m...I obsess over my nails too! When I give myself a mani/pedi I spend like an hour on it! Oh, and congrats to the anonymous chef wifer who's having a baby in a week!! That's wonderful! I do an Ethel. I've got my BFFChefWife J but she's too far to hang during the week and we both work soo much.Hilary Batteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17379733128452993947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-42377101792286712202008-07-31T13:37:00.000-05:002008-07-31T13:37:00.000-05:00I often feel the same way... evenings alone with j...I often feel the same way... evenings alone with junk food and old movies seem to scream my name. I call girlfriends to hang out but they're usually busy seeing their own boyfriends who have just gotten home from work. I just feel like I'm always by myself. I've tried to fill my time with reading lots of books in cafes (so I'm actually OUT), obsessively doing my nails; I even joined a yoga studio. And the nice thing is I realized that I do enjoy my alone time, and that I've learned more about myself than I ever have at any other point in my life. And when my boyfriend comes home I can't wait to talk to him! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-71640610538281035002008-07-30T17:11:00.000-05:002008-07-30T17:11:00.000-05:00I think the key is reaching out. Look at this blog...I think the key is reaching out. Look at this blog and how it touches so many people. Look for an Ethyl Mertz to your Lucy. I think that may be what you really need.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-83064001171728853692008-07-30T16:45:00.000-05:002008-07-30T16:45:00.000-05:00Change "cats" to "dog" and I could've written this...Change "cats" to "dog" and I could've written this post! I don't have any advice really aside from echoing erin - I feel for you too. It's just me, the dog, and the dvr cable box every night.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-65706473284884057752008-07-30T15:01:00.000-05:002008-07-30T15:01:00.000-05:00my chef and i actually have a baby on the way...du...my chef and i actually have a baby on the way...due in a few weeks. at first i thought it would be a great distraction from the lonliness, but the closer it gets the more nervous i am about feeling like an abondoned single mom. it's nice to have distractions but i think the bottom line is we're all lonely most of the time. it's nice to know that i'm not the only one though...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-49921722504659042612008-07-30T12:34:00.000-05:002008-07-30T12:34:00.000-05:00Thanks for this post, it reminds me that I'm not t...Thanks for this post, it reminds me that I'm not the only one feeling this way. It sure is hard sometimes it's nice to know I'm not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-1490576675816193752008-07-30T05:28:00.000-05:002008-07-30T05:28:00.000-05:00Oh I feel for you DCW! My chef and I are preparin...Oh I feel for you DCW! My chef and I are preparing to move and last week was me, alone in the evenings, packing. It was quite sad and very lonely. I tried to make plans with a few friends, but everyone was busy.<BR/><BR/>Can't really give you advice, but I can give you support. <BR/><BR/>Any chance you can squeeze one more trip home before the schoolyear starts?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com