tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post157255700549130140..comments2009-12-16T21:21:50.212-05:00ChefWifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17379733128452993947desperatechefswives@gmail.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-82630224846798392142009-12-16T21:13:40.726-05:002009-12-16T21:13:40.726-05:00Dear Married2thecook...<br />Yes, a shower can be a wonderful thing! We do need to stick together and help eachother. Being a chef wive is one thing, but being a mother when your husband is a chef is a whole other animal! Hilary, trust us when we sy that soon you will have so much going on you won&#39;t really care what shuttle he takes or who he&#39;s cooking dinner for...you&#39;ll be raising a HUMAN BEING!!! It&#39;s awesome...you will love it and it will feel amazing, almost liberating not to be attached to his career so much.<br />I guess the change comes when you go from having him and his career be the center of your relationship to then YOU being the center, because you&#39;re the mother, the protector, the nuturer, the core of your family!TLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-15401025536315495722009-12-11T22:36:52.201-05:002009-12-11T22:36:52.201-05:00I just read Tiger Lily and I am smiling as I remembered when she came and rescued me during the first few weeks after my bebe (now 3.5) was born and gave me a break to shower because my chef was off working 17 hours a day. Suffice to say we all have to stick together because our lives are different than other families and as such we need different support and different understandings. Take time off, sleep now....relax and enjoy the feeling that it isn&#39;t all about how service went that night :-) <br /><br />PS Tiger Lily - I love you for that shower!married2thecookhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08583569031077291028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-70202433303209457452009-12-08T12:47:57.387-05:002009-12-08T12:47:57.387-05:00Believe me as soon as bebe is born and you&#39;re home alone waiting for said &quot;chef&quot; to come home and youre holding crying bebe, unshowered and tired...you will have lots to write about!<br />Hang in there!Tiger Lilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08363030567606383387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-2654325500311244832009-12-07T20:40:15.261-05:002009-12-07T20:40:15.261-05:00Thanks for the well wishes Kerilyn and good luck with your site. From starting this site the main thing I&#39;ve learned is that I&#39;m not alone. And although it helps to feel the support of other women, the frustrations feel just as bad. Typical or not-no one likes feeling the negative feelings associated with being married to a workaholic.ChefWifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17379733128452993947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-11060951929952497542009-12-07T20:40:14.340-05:002009-12-07T20:40:14.340-05:00Thanks for the well wishes Kerilyn and good luck with your site. From starting this site the main thing I&#39;ve learned is that I&#39;m not alone. And although it helps to feel the support of other women, the frustrations feel just as bad. Typical or not-no one likes feeling the negative feelings associated with being married to a workaholic.ChefWifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17379733128452993947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-39357149129940138522009-12-07T11:50:10.464-05:002009-12-07T11:50:10.464-05:00If I may be so bold....I&#39;m in the process of creating an online support system for Significant others in the Restaurant Industry..(http://marriedtoachef.com/) It&#39;s not UP yet..Because what you&#39;re going thru is Typical. YOU are who you are...and just ONE part if being a Chefs Wife...Married to one but I think we can&#39;t fully understand what being in and working for the industry truly meansBut WE need support too.. It takes a strong woman (or man) to really live a STRONG relationship with someone in this industry...It is my intention for the website to be a place, a haven for people to come and commiserate our frustrations.. a place to connect and to help facilitate connection.. by Christmas the Front Page should be up... by Spring the site should officially launch. Maybe we can work together.. ALL of you can help this be the place to come to.. to support and be supported... in the meantime.. You are NOT alone.. What you are feeling is definitely part of the process!!! Congratulations on your expecting arrival!!!!Kerilynhttp://marriedtoachef.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-68755718397554018302009-11-25T14:54:04.303-05:002009-11-25T14:54:04.303-05:00I think guest Bloggers is a great Idea!! I just found you ladies and I&#39;m new to the Chefwife world. I would hate to see this site fade away!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-48330581851797117222009-11-23T16:52:37.650-05:002009-11-23T16:52:37.650-05:00I&#39;m totally with you! I used to be so wrapped up in his career, and now I&#39;m much more wrapped up in my own. I think you should ask for guest bloggers or articles. I&#39;m sure we&#39;ve all got some stories...<br /><br />bbAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-17747222490467315532009-11-22T16:03:18.423-05:002009-11-22T16:03:18.423-05:00I noticed this change too once my chef husband and I had our baby. I had more time before the baby to meet him after work or at least stay up to talk with him when he got home. I knew what his specials where, I listened at length about menu changes and staff drama. <br /><br />With a newborn we hardly ever saw each other and when we did we had more important things to discuss like what the baby ate for the day or how long his naps where. (We worked a split schedule to minimize babies time in daycare).<br /><br />I&#39;ve noticed now that our son is older (18mo) and sleeping through the nights, I&#39;ve had a desire to reconnect with who I was before baby. We are planning more date nights, overnights to grandmas for the little guy and we are less sleep deprived and able to talk about both our jobs again. <br /><br />Looking back, it just reminds me how fluid and ever changing life is. So take the time to enjoy where you are at right now. <br /><br />Kristen, PDXAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-75289605488417227232009-11-22T08:16:16.985-05:002009-11-22T08:16:16.985-05:00Maybe you could start a new blog, for example related to pregnancy. There are different stages in life and now you begin a new one. So you have new ideas and different emotions to share with people.<br />:-) KarolKarolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-5060700458952599452009-11-22T08:16:15.196-05:002009-11-22T08:16:15.196-05:00Maybe you could start a new blog, for example related to pregnancy. There are different stages in life and now you begin a new one. So you have new ideas and different emotions to share with people.<br />:-) KarolKarolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3648374498406854611.post-59296780779186415242009-11-22T07:53:04.027-05:002009-11-22T07:53:04.027-05:00I went through the same thing with my blog this past summer. Do what&#39;s right for you. You&#39;ll figure it out.<br /><br />:)<br /><br />-ErinGo Erin gohttp://goxerinxgo.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com